Your main goal in any non-trivial undertaking should be accelerated returns, or getting more for less as time passes. If it doesn’t happen, you’re doing something wrong. This goes hand in hand with challenging yourself and aggressive goal setting. As it relates to women, it can be anything – from increasing the average hotness of the girls you bang each subsequent year, to minimizing the average time between ‘hello’ and ‘harder’, to making your wife love you with all her soul (if marriage is your thing).
On the way to becoming a better man, you will of course be improving in the 5 main categories – looks, wealth, status, fame, and game. Here’s how accelerated returns play out in each one:
By looks I’m referring primarily to non-genetic factors. Although you can do a little cosmetic surgery to fix whatever nature stuck you with (for example I had a slightly deviated septum I got taken care of), your physique and subsequent health is often a deal maker or breaker. No one likes fatties. Women are a bit more tolerant as their prerequisites for attraction go beyond just the physical presentation, but don’t think for a moment that having a bangin’ body won’t score you insta-lays.
Getting in shape and staying there (around 10% bodyfat, decent muscularity, and therefore nice arms and a 6 pack – and don’t forget the legs) takes time and effort, but it’s nothing that’s out of reach. Really, it’s not. Starting out always sucks, but along the way as you get more and more looks it’ll be all the motivation you need. Accelerated returns come after you’ve been doing it for a while and is often referred to as maintenance training.
You see, getting your body right is harder than keeping it there (the reverse is also true). You may have to train an hour a day 5x/week for years to make a permanent transformation, but once you’re there maintaining it won’t take more than 3x/week. Each rep you do will effectively give you more bang for your buck.
I’ve had more than one training hiatus before deciding to make it a lifestyle. I remember going a whole year without any gym time. Naturally I lost some size, got a little pouch, and generally felt like shit, but it only took 3 months to get back to where I was. About a year ago I stopped training legs altogether because they were getting too big for my tastes from all the squatting/deadlifting. I actually wanted to make them smaller. The only training they now get is running and they’ve gotten a little smaller, but they’re still substantial and well defined. They won’t be getting any smaller either unless I completely starve myself. That’s accelerated returns.
Wealth generation is the easiest concept for anyone with elementary math skills to grasp. Compound interest is the name of the game. $1 at a 10% annual return will be $1.1 after the first year, $1.21 after the second year, and $2.6 after 10 years. You’re not adding 10%, but rather multiplying on top of the previous year’s total. In other words, each year your dollar is worth more (I’m avoiding inflation and taxes for illustration purposes). The boring secret of most millionaires is that they simply put away a little each paycheck and waited until compound interest worked its magic long enough.
Start saving now – it becomes addictive. Get an account at a mutual fund company of your choice, set up a lazy 3 fund portfolio (total U.S. stock market, total U.S. bond market, total international stock market) and start putting away every extra dollar, then laugh all the way to the bank as you make money while sleeping. One of the best feelings is checking in to see how much you made last month for doing nothing extra. That’s your reward for living below your means. That’s accelerated returns.
I’m grouping these together because status is a subset of fame. As you gain a little celebrity (even if it’s just being a contextual alpha in your work field), people will talk to other people. And those people will eventually talk to other people. And if you’re a big enough deal, it’ll spider web out of control. With social media running rampant, even if you’re not a big deal but do something people find entertaining, you’ll get your limelight. How do you think Gangnam Style became the most watched Youtube video of all time? Get your name out there as much as possible and watch it snowball. That’s accelerated returns.
At last we come to game, something that gets entirely too much attention out of the 5 because of its ability to temporarily shortcut the other metrics of higher value. However, as you’re getting better all around, so should your game. Once you’ve accumulated enough experience, things like kino, foreplay, date ideas, conversation topics, and sex that would make porn stars envious all become second nature. You begin to attract more (and more attractive) women with less and less time before you’re both naked. That’s accelerated returns.
This is your modus operandi for everything repetitive in life. If you’re going after women, they had better be hotter and hotter with every new year. If you’re going after money, your nest egg should be growing by more than just your contribution. If you’re going after looks, you’re doing it wrong if you’re training just as hard 5 years from now to maintain the same physique. If you’re going after fame, put your best self promotion foot forward.