When red pill men (or men in general) are in the process of drastically changing their personality, an unfavorable but necessary side effect occurs: inconsistent behavior. While it can be argued that alpha-beta is a yin yang constantly in flux, an overall attitude towards events makes or breaks an alpha. Men are often advised to stop caring what others think, approach fearlessly because they have nothing to lose, and to generally take drastic measures yesterday. But that’s not how humans work. We’re creatures of habit and it takes time, coupled with consistent and deliberate effort to change oneself from the inside out.
If you’ve ever done something and later kicked yourself for ‘being beta’, you know what I’m talking about. This is a natural step in the process, as you’re realizing negative behavior and hopefully avoiding it in the future, or at least minimizing it over time until it’s gone. Unfortunately this can be a little exhausting, so one solution among many is to align yourself with a persona – a role model if you will – and when you’re questioning your next action, think ‘what would ___ do?’ This can be anyone, though characters from popular books and movies are ideal as they’re specifically built to represent a certain archetype to aspire to.
It might seem like a stupid exercise but if your goal is to be alpha, you need to learn, model, understand and, well, become everything therein. Might as well pull out all the stops.
Choosing a persona is fairly simple, though may need to narrow it down. The following 3 steps will get you there.
- Choose a character who men think is cool and women think is sexy. Both are necessary and he should be a 50/50 blend. If we look at movies for example, William Wallace in Braveheart is certainly a guy other guys think is cool and some women find sexy, but it’s skewed. On the flip side, Team Edward/Jacob from Twilight gets girls of all ages a little wet, but few men find them inspirational. Down-the-middle examples are James Bond and Tyler Durden from Fight Club.
- Choose a contemporary character. Because situations where an invisible aide is required come up in real time, it helps to associate with a persona privy to such situations. When a girl sends you a cryptic text, Bond would probably know what to do a little better than Achilles. If you’re wracking your brain for options, hit up the magazine aisle and look for the ‘sexiest men alive’ – just don’t let anyone catch you.
- Choose a character who matches your general predispositions. This is the most important. I personally align with James Bond. I’m a little cold (my European background is responsible for this), laconic, generally seek a variety of women without much commitment, and in great shape – so I align with his persona to some degree already. Maybe you’re more of an eccentric/funny Johhny Depp or a little country like Wolverine. Perhaps you’re a well groomed nerd a la Tony Stark. These are all personas women go gaga over. Pick one that fits you and vice versa, it’s all good.
In any endeavor we seek an expert. If you want to build wealth, you talk to the wealthy. If you want to get fit, you’ve taken at least a cursory liking to Arnold. So it makes sense to align yourself with those who are, or are perceived to be (since James Bond and Ironman don’t exist) successful with women.
Once you get past the silliness (although I’m willing to bet most of you played hero as a kid), you’ll realize that behavior modification and situation handling become second nature, which is what you’re after all along. The end justifies the means.