At the start of the series I talked about foreplay escalation. Learning how to turn a girl on so hard she’s begging for it is a great tool for long term (re)seduction, but the road is often bumpy, particularly if it’s a Same Night Lay (SNL). You had a great date, she’s back at your place, the makeouts are hot and heavy, and right as you begin to imagine how great being inside her will feel, she says ‘not tonight, we just met’.
What a buzzkill.
You’ve probably heard the terms ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) and LMR (Last Minute Resistance). To avoid nitpicking, they mean the same thing: you’re not getting your tool wet. Fortunately, you came prepared for this scenario from birth, thanks to a healthy dose of testosterone manifest in male aggression and dominance.
Before proceeding, a word on rape. There’s a very clear distinction between ‘no’ and ‘NO’ and we all came pre-wired to discern the difference. That said, in the heat of the moment it’s good to train yourself to take a step back and assess the situation. I like to use girl #53 as an example. If you just met, spent semi-private time in public (at a bar for instance), and she’s agreed to come back with you – alone – to your place on the pretense of having another drink or ‘watching a movie’, sex is on her mind. Your job is to bring it out. That’s not to say that every time a girl finds herself at your crib it’s on, but more often than not it is – or should be.
Why ASD/LMR Exists
In public it’s easy to understand why girls hold back – societal pressure from friends, family, and onlookers keeps the nympho in check. Because female competition is primarily covert (psychological), guarding her reputation when surrounded by sisters seething with contempt becomes priority #1, pushing you to #2 – unless you’re so high value that taking you home boosts her street cred.
In private it’s a little different. There are numerous reasons – too many to list actually – why a girl keeps her legs shut at your pad, but here are just a few:
- Further testing to check your alpha worth. You were cool enough for a date, a makeout, and she even let you feel her up, but when it comes to insemination the stakes are higher.
- Value of egg vs. sperm. Piggybacking off the above, biologically speaking eggs are several orders of magnitude more valuable than sperm and the potential parental investment falls on her, so you better have the alpha fucks or the beta bucks (preferably both).
- She’s inexperienced and it’s happening too fast for her.
- She’s experienced and is tired of riding the cock carousel with The Wall no longer just a speck in the distance. Another go round won’t hurt though.
- She genuinely likes you and feels you may not want to commit if she’s too easy. There is some truth to this, but it’s grossly over-exaggerated and often backfires.
- Your behavior changed and the incongruency is triggering a defense mechanism (‘you’re not the guy you were earlier’).
I could go on, but the exact reason is irrelevant as the rationalization hamster can spin whatever story he wants. Your mission is to uncross those legs and give it to her, and there’s only one way to do it:
Persistent, Calibrated Aggression
In a ruthless sexual market (ruling all other markets), you need to train yourself to be aggressive in everyday life, not just in the bedroom. Not creepy aggressive, but ‘refreshingly persistent’. In short, you need to up your testosterone, but stay away from the roids. You can start by cutting down on porn, eventually removing it altogether once you have enough readily available sex to relieve you. Lift weights regularly; making the gym a part of your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Switch to a paleo diet (high protein, low fat, low-moderate carb). Men were built to eat slabs of meat – embrace it. Stay away from soy products and plastics if possible.
Over time this will translate into more aggressive interactions with women from the onset. You’ll become more direct, escalate kino quicker, kiss close earlier, and get the lay on date 1 instead of 3. A big part of squashing ASD/LMR is overcoming objections early, much like when you’re selling something (in this case the product is you). If you don’t repeatedly signal to a girl through your actions that you want to defile her early, you’ll have your work cut out for you
if when you do get her alone.
Through experience I found that incongruent behavior is more responsible for resistance than anything else. If you’re a docile lamb on the date turned wolf in private, her BS radar will scream. On the other hand, if you’re doing everything shy of ripping her clothes off in public (or at least covertly signaling as much), she’ll have few remaining doubts. Do it right and you won’t have any resistance to deal with.
But if you do, simply cycle whatever stage of foreplay you were on until you can go further. If you’re sucking on her tits but she won’t let you rub her crotch (removing your hand each time you go there), restrain her hand and try again. She may wiggle free and block you, at which point – you guessed it – rinse and repeat. Make a game of it because that’s exactly what it is.
Once a girl is alone with you in your bed anything short of her fighting you off and getting up to leave is just a game.
She may say no, over and over, but never forget to follow actions, not words. If her mouth is saying no but you’re making progress and she’s not upset – green light. If her panties are soaked – mega green light. Don’t be a pansy. Women love love LOVE to be taken by a dominant man. You’ll be surprised how quickly ‘no’ turns into ‘harder’.
Use your weight, your strength, basically everything that makes you masculine (dominant) to bring out the feminine (submissive). This is the natural order of things. It takes balls and a bit of first hand experience to arrive at this conclusion, but when you adopt it as a mindset you’ll notice that more panties are dropping, quicker, the sex is hotter, and the girls fall harder for you.
I’m not a big fan of this, but it’s ‘popular’ enough to warrant mentioning. It’s a step below the aforementioned aggression, one that most guys go through on their way up (and some stay here due to lower natural aggression). Occasionally you’ll repeat, and repeat, and repeat the same moves and half an hour later you’ve made 0 progress. If you’re not comfortable dominating, you can do the opposite: pull away. Take a bio break, get some water, turn over – all unannounced. Showing your disapproval may not eliminate resistance, but it will often lower it.
Give it a few minutes, wait for her to come to you, and try again. I’ve done the ‘bathroom takeaway’ quite a bit when a girl wouldn’t let me do anything with her pants, only to return to find the button magically undone, or pants half off, or pants off completely. Sometimes it’s more subtle. I’ve had girls refuse to go horizontal so I would leave for a minute, come back and find them laying there. I had a girl piss me off with her resistance to the point where I got up and told her it was time to go, only to have her push me against the wall, drop my pants and start blowing me.
Experiment, have fun, find what works for you, and let the animal out. Remember – we’re only part human.