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Camera Game

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Being the more attention-hungry sex, it’s no secret that girls love the limelight, making amateur photography a great hobby if you enjoy it. For the rest of us, using your camera phone can bestow all sorts of benefits, from breaking down barriers to creating a personal stash.

Public Camera Game

This works best in small groups, but when you’re out with a girl in public (and drinking is usually involved), don’t shy away from playing director. The camera is used as a positive reinforcer of slutty behavior, so you’ll know exactly when to whip it out. If your girl and her friend are grinding on each other and progressively more skin is revealed, you can join the action by making a little movie. It doesn’t have to be shown to anyone (in fact most public videos I shoot are so dumb I delete them the next day), but the purpose is to get girls to loosen up.

For example, I not only made girl #55 take body shots off her sister on our first night out together, but she kiss closed me on camera and we made a porno later that night.

The process is simple: wait for her to do something ‘sexually liberating’, start filming, and act in control. Tell her what to do. If she huffs at your filming, tell her to shut up and do something else. Also, make her kiss the camera. For some reason it works.

Caveat – don’t film girls randomly. A certain level of comfort must first be established, otherwise you come off creepy and are likely to be socially ostracized.

Private Camera Game

Once you get a girl alone, busting out the camera can be used as a way to overcome ASD/LMR. Put on some music, dim the lights, and tell her to strip dance for you. Reassure her it’s for your eyes only (as it should be). Tell her ‘it’s for me when I’m a creepy old man so I can reminisce about the past’.

If she agrees to filming (most do if you just go for it), it’s a great way to get her sex-primed. Although this was during a later night together, I got girl #54 to cum while dancing in front of the camera without me touching her – the white streak on her thong proved as much. Needless to say, multiple orgasms ensued.

A lot of ‘kinky stuff’ that guys (and girls) like to save for later can be had right away, or soon after meeting. The expediency with which the nympho comes out is entirely up to you. It’s a product of how comfortable you make her feel and your dominant persistence. With each aggressive maneuver, I still surprise myself.

Keep It Private

Although it may be tempting to show your buddies what you made her do – don’t. People can’t keep secrets and even revenge uploads aren’t worth it. Despite intoxication or the heat of the moment, there’s an inherent level of trust and responsibility that goes with camera use. If you keep it on the DL, she’ll reward you with additional sexual explorations and it can pave the way for future use with outfits, bondage, threesome if you’re lucky, etc. Conversely if you negate the Golden Rule and go public, your reputation will end up just as tarnished as hers.

Film responsibly.

Attraction Is A Choice – It Can Be Created

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Several years ago I read David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating. Although a few of the concepts presented are flawed or incomplete, at the time I was starting from scratch so I soaked it up, and to be fair he gives some solid tips for beginners. His famous line is ‘attraction is not a choice’. On the surface the rationale is sound. A lot of times a girl can’t logically tell you why she’s attracted to a guy beyond listing symptoms – he’s hot, sweet, he ‘gets me’, the way he carries himself, blah blah.

Where this gets mixed up is the assumption that you either have it or you don’t. You’re either attractive or you’re not. If that were true, there would be no point in chasing wealth, fame, status, looks, or learning game.

Attraction can be created. Therefore, it is a choice. A choice you make to become more attractive.

Exhibit A – manufactured fame:

The girls aren’t necessarily swarming him because their panties are soaked, but I would bet my paycheck that if he kept up the act he’d be getting laid that night. Now, I’m not endorsing faking your way as a long term strategy because, well, it’s not sustainable (though faking it til you make it – with emphasis on making it – is sound). But it goes to show that as a man, you are in control of your sexual market value.

Examine the 5 main traits of alpha – looks, wealth, status, fame, and game – and how each one is a choice you make:

Looks – her panties get wet once she sees your arms, feels your strength, and touches your 6 pack. Manufactured by you.

Wealth – sure you can call them gold diggers, but ultimately penetration is all that counts. She may ‘love’ you for your money, but does it really make a difference? Manufactured by you.

Status/Fame – (status is a subset of fame) as you can see in the video, no further explanation is required. Manufactured by you, either as the above prank or bona fide.

Game – the attitude girls love. This is what they mean by ‘he gets me, he’s not a pushover, I like his style, he’s sweet, he’s exciting, etc’. Guess what – manufactured by you.

Although a lot of guys intuitively know this, there are still way too many who think ‘she should just like me for me’ and as a result take the easy path of inaction, later wondering why they can’t get any.

The entire premise of this site is to become a more attractive (and therefore higher value) man. Yes, it will bring you happiness.

High Level Sex: Overcoming ASD/LMR

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At the start of the series I talked about foreplay escalation. Learning how to turn a girl on so hard she’s begging for it is a great tool for long term (re)seduction, but the road is often bumpy, particularly if it’s a Same Night Lay (SNL). You had a great date, she’s back at your place, the makeouts are hot and heavy, and right as you begin to imagine how great being inside her will feel, she says ‘not tonight, we just met’.

What a buzzkill.

You’ve probably heard the terms ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) and LMR (Last Minute Resistance). To avoid nitpicking, they mean the same thing: you’re not getting your tool wet. Fortunately, you came prepared for this scenario from birth, thanks to a healthy dose of testosterone manifest in male aggression and dominance.

Before proceeding, a word on rape. There’s a very clear distinction between ‘no’ and ‘NO’ and we all came pre-wired to discern the difference. That said, in the heat of the moment it’s good to train yourself to take a step back and assess the situation. I like to use girl #53 as an example. If you just met, spent semi-private time in public (at a bar for instance), and she’s agreed to come back with you – alone – to your place on the pretense of having another drink or ‘watching a movie’, sex is on her mind. Your job is to bring it out. That’s not to say that every time a girl finds herself at your crib it’s on, but more often than not it is – or should be.

Why ASD/LMR Exists

In public it’s easy to understand why girls hold back – societal pressure from friends, family, and onlookers keeps the nympho in check. Because female competition is primarily covert (psychological), guarding her reputation when surrounded by sisters seething with contempt becomes priority #1, pushing you to #2 – unless you’re so high value that taking you home boosts her street cred.

In private it’s a little different. There are numerous reasons – too many to list actually – why a girl keeps her legs shut at your pad, but here are just a few:

  1. Further testing to check your alpha worth. You were cool enough for a date, a makeout, and she even let you feel her up, but when it comes to insemination the stakes are higher.
  2. Value of egg vs. sperm. Piggybacking off the above, biologically speaking eggs are several orders of magnitude more valuable than sperm and the potential parental investment falls on her, so you better have the alpha fucks or the beta bucks (preferably both).
  3. She’s inexperienced and it’s happening too fast for her.
  4. She’s experienced and is tired of riding the cock carousel with The Wall no longer just a speck in the distance. Another go round won’t hurt though.
  5. She genuinely likes you and feels you may not want to commit if she’s too easy. There is some truth to this, but it’s grossly over-exaggerated and often backfires.
  6. Your behavior changed and the incongruency is triggering a defense mechanism (‘you’re not the guy you were earlier’).

I could go on, but the exact reason is irrelevant as the rationalization hamster can spin whatever story he wants. Your mission is to uncross those legs and give it to her, and there’s only one way to do it:

Persistent, Calibrated Aggression

In a ruthless sexual market (ruling all other markets), you need to train yourself to be aggressive in everyday life, not just in the bedroom. Not creepy aggressive, but ‘refreshingly persistent’. In short, you need to up your testosterone, but stay away from the roids. You can start by cutting down on porn, eventually removing it altogether once you have enough readily available sex to relieve you. Lift weights regularly; making the gym a part of your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Switch to a paleo diet (high protein, low fat, low-moderate carb). Men were built to eat slabs of meat – embrace it. Stay away from soy products and plastics if possible.

Over time this will translate into more aggressive interactions with women from the onset. You’ll become more direct, escalate kino quicker, kiss close earlier, and get the lay on date 1 instead of 3. A big part of squashing ASD/LMR is overcoming objections early, much like when you’re selling something (in this case the product is you). If you don’t repeatedly signal to a girl through your actions that you want to defile her early, you’ll have your work cut out for you if when you do get her alone.

Through experience I found that incongruent behavior is more responsible for resistance than anything else. If you’re a docile lamb on the date turned wolf in private, her BS radar will scream. On the other hand, if you’re doing everything shy of ripping her clothes off in public (or at least covertly signaling as much), she’ll have few remaining doubts. Do it right and you won’t have any resistance to deal with.

But if you do, simply cycle whatever stage of foreplay you were on until you can go further. If you’re sucking on her tits but she won’t let you rub her crotch (removing your hand each time you go there), restrain her hand and try again. She may wiggle free and block you, at which point – you guessed it – rinse and repeat. Make a game of it because that’s exactly what it is.

Once a girl is alone with you in your bed anything short of her fighting you off and getting up to leave is just a game.

She may say no, over and over, but never forget to follow actions, not words. If her mouth is saying no but you’re making progress and she’s not upset – green light. If her panties are soaked – mega green light. Don’t be a pansy. Women love love LOVE to be taken by a dominant man. You’ll be surprised how quickly ‘no’ turns into ‘harder’.

Use your weight, your strength, basically everything that makes you masculine (dominant) to bring out the feminine (submissive). This is the natural order of things. It takes balls and a bit of first hand experience to arrive at this conclusion, but when you adopt it as a mindset you’ll notice that more panties are dropping, quicker, the sex is hotter, and the girls fall harder for you.

Takeaway/Push-Pull/Exasperation

I’m not a big fan of this, but it’s ‘popular’ enough to warrant mentioning. It’s a step below the aforementioned aggression, one that most guys go through on their way up (and some stay here due to lower natural aggression). Occasionally you’ll repeat, and repeat, and repeat the same moves and half an hour later you’ve made 0 progress. If you’re not comfortable dominating, you can do the opposite: pull away. Take a bio break, get some water, turn over – all unannounced. Showing your disapproval may not eliminate resistance, but it will often lower it.

Give it a few minutes, wait for her to come to you, and try again. I’ve done the ‘bathroom takeaway’ quite a bit when a girl wouldn’t let me do anything with her pants, only to return to find the button magically undone, or pants half off, or pants off completely. Sometimes it’s more subtle. I’ve had girls refuse to go horizontal so I would leave for a minute, come back and find them laying there. I had a girl piss me off with her resistance to the point where I got up and told her it was time to go, only to have her push me against the wall, drop my pants and start blowing me.

Experiment, have fun, find what works for you, and let the animal out. Remember – we’re only part human.

Growth Is Evidence Of Life

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Every now and then I like to remind my readers (and myself) of the existential side to all this: that life is short for most of us. Not in the ‘die before your time sense’, but rather a drab routine year after year, often decade after decade, and as if it were a dream you’re no longer the young, carefree man with thoughts of invincibility. That day will come and if you don’t make a change now, it’ll come sooner than later.

It’s hard to imagine a more pathetic sight than a grown man in his prime (somewhere in the 30-50 range pending accomplishments and health) oblivious to his predicament. How many men subscribe to ‘The One’, see relationships as a goal, see marriage as a goal, would give up all they’ve sacrificed so much for just to get a few fleeting moments with a has-been past her prime? More than you think.

By reading this you’re already well ahead of the curve. You’ve taken the red pill and no matter how bitter the taste, you know there’s no going back. Take this time to consider how much of your life you’ve wasted so far, how much time, effort, resources, and heart you’ve given to women who never barely reciprocated, only to have it blow up in your face.

This isn’t meant to sound morbid. Experience is the best teacher, but some lessons are best learned from others. To this day it hurts me to talk to men who were/are miserably married through their prime and beyond, who have only had the chance to sample a handful (if that) before they ‘did the right thing’. Most of them are adolescents in rotting carcasses. They lived their best years retroactively, responding to whatever the day brought.

In the same way it pains me to see guys my age (nearing 30) who spent their 20s in multi-year relationships, haven’t changed a bit since high school, and missed out on a silver platter of pussy: college.*

*Shortly after leaving campus I remember being upset that ‘it was all over’, but through years of personal development I realized that the fun is only beginning. For the college aged readers, don’t fret. Take advantage of the party years but keep your eye on the prize. Do it right and you’ll get more girls than you know what to do with – they can sniff a catch from a mile away.

Life Is Growth, Growth Is Life

The point is this – never stop learning. Keep the following list in mind and you’ll build your life how you want.

  1. Even within a relationship, do everything you can to grow. A degree of complacency is inevitable, but if you find yourself identical to last year, it’s time to change.
  2. Realize that everything ends and if you’ve gotten all there is out of it, leave. We are all born and die alone; better to die happy than regret the ‘what if’s’.
  3. Maturity is not chronological. Maturity is development of self through experience, the pursuit of knowledge, application of this knowledge, and resulting core philosophies.
  4. If you truly put your heart into it, you’ll grow beyond your expectations. 10 years of reactionary stagnation are easily surpassed by 1 year of deliberate introspection, effort, and improvement.
  5. For all intents and purposes, there’s an infinite number of women out there for the taking. Whatever you desire – a girlfriend, a wife, a mother for your children, a harem – the only person keeping you from getting the woman (or women) you want is you.
  6. Your world could end today. While it’s impossible to say you lived your life exactly how you wanted (due to hindsight), how far off from your ideal are you currently? What are you doing to change?
  7. I learned more in 6 months on the job than my previous 6 years of college combined. In retrospect, I wasted 5 of them. I got everything I needed my first year. Apply this to your life – you only need a little to get started. ‘Continued education’ is great, but without action you will never internalize or believe the concepts you read about.
  8. Experiment and have fun. Do goofy, cheesy, stupid, completely ‘not you’ stuff, do everything you want (within reason) to figure out what works for you. If you’re not having fun in your relationships with girls, find new ones you will have fun with.
  9. Find out what you do and don’t like. What are the little things you let slide? What are the really important traits? And not what your parents, your family, your friends, your girlfriends, or anyone says you should, but what you like. How can you find a great girl if you haven’t taken the time to discover what that means to you?

Most importantly, never, ever let anyone stop you from becoming who you want to become. I can’t stress the preciousness of life enough. There are no restarts. When it’s game over, it’s over.

Play hard.

High Level Sex: Foreplay Escalation

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By reader request, today we begin the High Level Sex series. Although bedroom prowess isn’t the be all end all, being extraordinary in the sack will keep a girl coming back around and around despite herself. Simply put, if you can give her the best, or one of the best sexual experiences of her life, you will own a small part of her soul. All guys that come after you will be compared (much like we compare current partners to previous), she’ll be reminded of you, and in a sense you’ll spoil her for the rest. Such is the game.

Not to mention that just like having a big dong, word will spread to her girlfriends (and their girlfriends) about your one of a kind lovemaking, paving the way for future conquests of jealous sisters and frenemies. In today’s sexual marketplace, victory requires the use of all available tools to their greatest extent. Fortunately, becoming proficient at sex is more trial and less error than other pursuits, since most things feel good; it’s just that some feel really good.

Let’s start from the beginning.

Physical Fitness

Although this is a separate (and quite extensive) topic for another time, physical fitness for both partners is crucial. If either person is obese, vaginas stay arid and penises floppy. It’s nearly impossible to get excited at the sight of multiple rolls obscuring the cash and prizes. Since looks (both genetic and developed) are one of the 5 traits of alpha, it would behoove you to focus on getting your body right. Side benefit: there will be plenty of times where you get laid – repeatedly – based on your physique alone. Nice arms and a 6 pack soak panties all day. I speak from experience.

In short: if you’re in great shape, achieving high level sex status is easier. Conversely, if you’re a blob it’s all but impossible. Everything in-between is, well, in-between.

Foreplay: Step By Step

Let’s assume you take a girl on a date, perhaps to a bar, properly escalate kino, and now she’s back at your place. Every now and then the date is so intense and she’s so DTF that you can barely wait to get inside before the clothes come off (see girl #44), but this is rare. In most cases there’s at least token resistance and you need to put in some additional work – especially if it’s your first night out together.

For the record, you should always push for sex on the first night. Whether you get it is irrelevant. I’ve lost several girls in the past precisely because I didn’t push. She may drag it out to date 2 or 3 pending personal convictions, but at least it’s on the menu.

And a quick note on erogenous zones: they’re basically everywhere. Different girls have varying sensitivities/preferences, but caressing any non-weird body part (no armpit for example) will always get a favorable response. Your job is to figure out what she likes specifically. It’s a fun discovery process and you shouldn’t be afraid to ask (or get confirmation) that she enjoys something. For example, if you’re kissing her neck a specific way and she starts moaning, you can say in a seductive voice ‘oh you like that huh’, which amps things up. Experiment.

That said, here’s a step by step panty remover, or at least what I do every time with slight deviation.

  1. After entering your place, ask if she wants another drink (answer irrelevant) and make good on whatever you promised (‘let’s go back to my place to watch a movie, see my art, have another drink, look at my weird collection of something, etc’). If you’re doing a movie it’s straightforward. Couch or bed works best, lights off, proceed with kino. If you’re doing music, keep the volume low, dim the lights, and run a little word game.
  2. You want to be seated next to each other with perma-kino. At the very least have legs touching. In most cases you should have already kiss closed, so additional kissing will come naturally. ‘Watching a movie’ is the most common activity, so let’s pretend that’s where you’re at. I strongly advise that both of you be in some sort of reclined position with you spooning her.
  3. Start playing with her hair. No girl has ever refused this and some mildly moan. Start from the top of the scalp and comb her hair with your fingers to the tips in a slow motion, then repeat. You’ll get some knots out and it’s a fun activity. Do this for a couple minutes and as you’re combing it, finish up by moving it out the way of her ear so it’s exposed. Tell her to sit still.
  4. Move your hand from her head to her lower back, lean in, and start kissing her neck directly below the ear or start from the back and move to the side. Leave the ear alone for now. Kiss your way down her neck (lightly) to her shoulder. If she has a high cut top, pull it down a little with your other hand. Gently kiss up and down the line. You can also slowly exhale onto her neck with your mouth, lips just outside of contact (or barely touching) as you move your head along her neckline. More often than not this gives girls chills – the good kind.
  5. A few minutes in you can move up to her ear and start nibbling on the lobe at the bottom. In addition, deeply inhale and exhale (both slowly) with your mouth into her ear – it’s another great way to give chills. For some girls this is enough to melt away any remaining resistance (see girl #54). For others you’ll have to press onward.
  6. By now you should have free reign over the entire front side of her body from head to upper chest. Keep kissing her all over in a circle: lips/ear > neck > shoulder > chest > neck > back up to lips. Meanwhile your hands should be rubbing the rest of her body. Grab her breasts (over her clothes), squeeze, and slowly work your way south with your hands.
  7. At this point you may encounter resistance. Overcoming ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) and LMR (Last Minute Resistance) is a topic for a separate post, so let’s assume there isn’t any, or very little. In most cases backtracking and repeating whatever you were just doing – sometimes more than once – allows you to proceed. For a real life example, see girl #53.
  8. By now you should be rubbing her entire body from head to toe. Stay away from the crotch, but rub her thighs and entire leg down to her ankles while checking to see if her legs are crossed tight or relaxed. This is a major indication of readiness. Tightly crossed legs = lots of work ahead. Relaxed legs = you’re almost there.
  9. As you’re rubbing her body, pull her shirt up and start kissing her stomach, slowly working your way up to her breasts. You should have felt them already (#6 above) so it’s nothing new. Kiss her right below them, then move back down. Repeat depending on how much you want to tease. We now come to the first moment of truth: you have to assertively pull her shirt off.
  10. With shirt removed, keep the bra in place. Kiss all over her, focusing on the breasts. Pull it down and kiss/suck on her nipples, but keep it on. A few minutes in move both hands behind her (or roll her slightly) and undo it. A lot of guys get antsy if they can’t undo a bra quickly. Yes it takes practice. No it’s not a dealbreaker. If it’s particularly challenging, laugh it off and jokingly tell her ‘I swear it’s not my first time’ or ‘forgot to mention I’m a virgin’ (don’t say this if you’re a virgin).
  11. Now that she’s half naked, proceed with heavy nipple play. Alternate sucking, lightly biting, and putting your mouth on it while moving your tongue in circles around it. Do the same thing to her other breast with your hand, then switch back and forth. When you feel it’s time, continue with mouth/1 hand and go back to rubbing her legs.
  12. They should now be uncrossed, allowing you to rub the inside of her thighs. Slowly work your way up to her pussy (over clothes) and back down. A few minutes here is a great tease and should get her so wet she can’t wait for you to undress her. Follow up by rubbing her stomach, slowly working your way down to her pants and a bit inward. Second moment of truth: pop the button and undo the zipper. No resistance = you’re getting some tonight.
  13. If you like going down on girls (I do), now is a great time to work your tongue magic. Otherwise slip your hands down there and start playing with her clit, all the while kissing her wherever you choose. The more active you are the better. Try to have both hands, mouth, and whatever other body parts active at all times; overwhelm with movement and sensation.
  14. Remove her pants, yours, and have at it.

Each of these steps can explained in greater detail, but half the fun is learning it for yourself. No two situations are alike. Sometimes there’s no resistance and foreplay goes out the window (a rarity). Other times you’ll get pissed as she’s not giving up an inch. Sticking points can happen anywhere. Your goal then is to remain unfazed, stay the course, and go after what you want. Common sense will alert you to the difference between a ‘no’ and a ‘NO’, but if a girl is willing to come back to your place alone with you – especially after drinks – she’s almost always DTF. She’s just waiting for you to man up and take her.