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48 Laws Of Game – #2: Never Put Too Much Trust In Friends, Learn How To Use Enemies

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This is a continuation of the 48 Laws Of Game series, an interpretation of Robert Greene’s 48 Laws Of Power.

Law #2: Never Put Too Much Trust In Friends, Learn How To Use Enemies

Be wary of friends – they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.

It’s natural to turn to friends in times of need. They’ll be generally agreeable and support you in whatever trials you encounter, at least on the surface. But it is exactly this facade of sympathy that causes more problems than it solves. Pretend you’re on the rocks with your significant other and want some guidance on how to ‘fix’ things, so you turn to your buddy for aid. While he may offer you good advice, you need to beware of three things.

First, no one knows the full context like you. Even you may not be fully aware of the proceedings, as women have a way of obfuscating root causes even from themselves (the hamster yawns). So while he may be trying to help, beginning with incomplete input yields incomplete output.

Second, because he’s your friend you’re more likely to (incorrectly) assume that his advice supersedes that of more impartial parties, that he has your best interest at heart. Friends are simply people you spend more time with and have more trust in than strangers, but more does not equate to full. Ultimately, the only person you can trust is yourself. A more insidious consideration is jealously. Friends are no exception. While it’s easy to spot an acquaintance with green eyes, those close to you are much better at disguising their contempt for what you have. This is more pronounced among females and their frenemies, but men are not exempt. The more alpha you become, the more people avoid direct confrontation, preferring to work behind your back instead and sabotage you in more subtle ways. It’s a tale as old as time, so be wary.

And as for taking relationship advice from women – don’t. Exceptions notwithstanding, when it comes to matters of the heart men should heed the wisdom of other men, particularly those with more experience in said matters. It’s not that female advice is bad per se, it’s just that it doesn’t ‘come out’ the way men perceive the world – logically. Do as I do, not as I say.

Third, limited biased opinions will narrow your scope. Broader sources with no vested interest in your particular affairs will often yield the best advice. With the advent of the internet, this can be had free of charge and at your convenience. It’s a beautiful thing. You see, if two guy friends want the same girl, they may not fistfight over her, but you’ll definitely encounter some passive aggressive bad advice from one to the other. But if they’re hundreds of miles apart and play no role in each other’s lives, any personal interest is greatly diminished. Humans have a desire to help so long as it doesn’t interfere with their own plans.

Surprisingly, enemies often help you despite themselves. A perfect example is girl #46 and her ex. When I first met her they were still dating. He was outwardly nice to me and I suspected nothing. A year later they were broken up and she confided that he thought she cheated with me, which only made her want me more. She didn’t, as I had not seen her since our first meeting. I also had no dealings with him since then. In fact, for a while he invited me out with his friends. Shady, eh? This isn’t new. I learned through my female compatriots that I have a number of fans throughout the city, many of whom I’ve never met, which only strengthens my reputation. Fame and notoriety have the same effect and either is preferable to being a wallflower.

The lesson is simple: be careful who you let into your life, trust yourself above all, and seek the most impartial advice possible.

 

48 Laws Of Game – #1: Never Outshine The Master

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Aside from your canonical literature of choice (if you have any), Robert Greene’s 48 Laws of Power is a must read for anyone looking to succeed in the game of life. Over the last few years I have read, re-read, applied, and internalized many of the principles therein and it has been a beacon of light in an otherwise insidious reality.

Today marks the beginning of a series where we’ll be looking at the 48 laws and how they pertain to the crimson arts.

Law #1: Never Outshine The Master

Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please and impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.

As it relates to game, this isn’t about placating women who are ‘out of your league’. In fact, the more attractive the woman (8+), the higher the negging (or indifference, if that’s your style) required. This law relates more to you being out of her league, a typically unheard-of concept. The healthiest relationships, particularly those withstanding the test of time without both parties despising each other, are characterized by the man being of higher value, though not by much. A 1-2 point difference is ideal.

Let’s assume you’re an 8 on the success object scale and she’s the same on the sex object scale. No problem; you can spit game, she’ll still feel like a prize, chances are you’ll give chase a little because you both have upgrade options, and as long as she perceives you to be on similar ground, all is right in the world. Now, let’s say you’re a 9 and you run into a 7 who pushes all the right buttons. Not a major head turner, but she’s definitely cute and there’s ‘something about her’ that seriously turns you on (e.g. she tends to your ego).

Unfortunately for you, she’ll quickly realize this discrepancy and respond one of two ways: either distance herself from you out of fear of not being good enough (yes it’s weird, but girls do this) or become annoyingly insecure. Girls can’t stand to feel out of your league, so they’ll either find some excuse not to go for you or self destruct over time. Most guys will do the same, but a few will take the road less traveled and improve themselves in ways that become attractive to top shelf ass.

What do you do when facing this dilemma? You downplay a little. This is often referred to as Vulnerability Game. If you’re too alpha for her and there’s a large enough gap, she’ll leave. So if you want her to stick around, it helps to sprinkle a little romcom her way.

For example, one thing girls wondering into insecurity territory will do is continually fish for compliments. She’ll start asking you if you think she’s (still) pretty, how you feel about her, what you’re thinking (it better be about her), and so on. You don’t have to respond immediately, but if you’re used to greeting women with ‘hey’, the next time she shows up a ‘you look nice tonight’ line will be just enough to shut her up validate her and restore balance. Intermittently complimenting non-visual characteristics (if she does something thoughtful for instance) will also go a long way.

However, use very sparingly and only when you sense she’s not getting her fill. This is of course moving into the realm of relationships, as initial seduction happens so quickly that there’s no time for beta bait. You want her, she wants you, the rest is simple. Also, when you’re dealing with girls above you on the 10 point scale it’s totally unnecessary unless she has deeper self-esteem issues. But those will surface on their own anyway.

This may seem like a beta move to some, but remember that strategically disguising your strengths is not weakness if it leads to power and you keep the initiative. Power, in this case, is keeping the object of your desire enthralled.