Law #2: Never Put Too Much Trust In Friends, Learn How To Use Enemies
Be wary of friends – they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.
It’s natural to turn to friends in times of need. They’ll be generally agreeable and support you in whatever trials you encounter, at least on the surface. But it is exactly this facade of sympathy that causes more problems than it solves. Pretend you’re on the rocks with your significant other and want some guidance on how to ‘fix’ things, so you turn to your buddy for aid. While he may offer you good advice, you need to beware of three things.
First, no one knows the full context like you. Even you may not be fully aware of the proceedings, as women have a way of obfuscating root causes even from themselves (the hamster yawns). So while he may be trying to help, beginning with incomplete input yields incomplete output.
Second, because he’s your friend you’re more likely to (incorrectly) assume that his advice supersedes that of more impartial parties, that he has your best interest at heart. Friends are simply people you spend more time with and have more trust in than strangers, but more does not equate to full. Ultimately, the only person you can trust is yourself. A more insidious consideration is jealously. Friends are no exception. While it’s easy to spot an acquaintance with green eyes, those close to you are much better at disguising their contempt for what you have. This is more pronounced among females and their frenemies, but men are not exempt. The more alpha you become, the more people avoid direct confrontation, preferring to work behind your back instead and sabotage you in more subtle ways. It’s a tale as old as time, so be wary.
And as for taking relationship advice from women – don’t. Exceptions notwithstanding, when it comes to matters of the heart men should heed the wisdom of other men, particularly those with more experience in said matters. It’s not that female advice is bad per se, it’s just that it doesn’t ‘come out’ the way men perceive the world – logically. Do as I do, not as I say.
Third, limited biased opinions will narrow your scope. Broader sources with no vested interest in your particular affairs will often yield the best advice. With the advent of the internet, this can be had free of charge and at your convenience. It’s a beautiful thing. You see, if two guy friends want the same girl, they may not fistfight over her, but you’ll definitely encounter some passive aggressive bad advice from one to the other. But if they’re hundreds of miles apart and play no role in each other’s lives, any personal interest is greatly diminished. Humans have a desire to help so long as it doesn’t interfere with their own plans.
Surprisingly, enemies often help you despite themselves. A perfect example is girl #46 and her ex. When I first met her they were still dating. He was outwardly nice to me and I suspected nothing. A year later they were broken up and she confided that he thought she cheated with me, which only made her want me more. She didn’t, as I had not seen her since our first meeting. I also had no dealings with him since then. In fact, for a while he invited me out with his friends. Shady, eh? This isn’t new. I learned through my female compatriots that I have a number of fans throughout the city, many of whom I’ve never met, which only strengthens my reputation. Fame and notoriety have the same effect and either is preferable to being a wallflower.
The lesson is simple: be careful who you let into your life, trust yourself above all, and seek the most impartial advice possible.