A few months ago I wrote about Facebook photo structuring for maximum pickup success. FB game is its own animal and relies heavily on real life social proof. Fortunately, much like a ‘fake it til you make it’ approach works in everyday environments, becoming pseudo-famous on FB requires a similar approach. Reader feedback generated some valid questions, so here are some additional game tips in no particular order:
- Pics with girls can send off a player vibe – is this bad? Definitely not. The game is a numbers game and while you can’t catch them all, you want to attract the majority and repel the minority. The pros gained from verifiable social proof (cute girls tagged in your photos) far outweigh the cons of being labeled a ‘player’ by a few prudes. Preselection trumps all – women want who other women want. It’s also important to stay congruent with your goals. If you just want to bang a bunch of hot chicks, there’s no reason to hide it. You don’t overtly say it of course, but your actions – manifest in the photos you post – will speak for themselves.
- How do you structure messages? Typical messages are ‘hey’, ‘what’s up’, ‘how are you’, or some combination thereof, i.e. ‘hey how are you’. In my experience this is sufficient. A witty line or some attempt at circumventing a boring message in order to initiate a conversation often does more harm than good. If a girl accepts your friend request, checks out your profile, and likes what she sees, she’ll respond. If she doesn’t, it’s not the content of your message – she’s just not interested. When women open me (sadly they’re not all supermodels), they often say the exact same things, so keep it simple. You can then ask what she’s up to, where she goes out, what she does for fun – basically anything to begin threading.
- Should you ever ‘like’ pics/status updates? ‘Likes’ are to be used sparingly. In general, I only ‘like’ a photo or status if a) that girl and I have some history and b) we haven’t talked in a while and I want her to think about me again. Occasionally I’ll ‘like’ an update of a girl I’m dating to let her know I’m thinking about her, but this gets into a bit of relationship management. The general rule of thumb is: if a pretty girl posts a bunch of pictures regularly for attention and gets tons of ‘likes’ as is, she doesn’t need yours. Don’t be another orbiter.
- What kind of comments should you make (if any)? Comments are your bread and butter. This is your chance to flex your social bicep and post backhanded compliments, negs as necessary, puns, and generally set yourself apart from the others. Don’t become a ‘regular’ on any girl’s wall, but practice your social skills randomly. Even then it’s still time consuming and I typically only comment in response to my own status updates. This sets the frame – if you come post on my wall, I’ll reply, otherwise you won’t get any attention from me.
- What do you do when dating multiple girls on FB? With enough effort you’re likely to begin
bangingcasually dating several girls – all of whom are Facebook friends with you. This can start some serious drama, so it’s best to avoid posting additional photos of you and other girls 1-on-1 once it begins. By all means post group photos (let’s say a couple cute girls with their arms around you, with whom you’re platonic), but be careful about what you put out in the open once sex is involved. A girl I’ve been dating non-exclusively for a few months now has questioned me multiple times about 1 photo with me and a couple girls I know. Women get crazy jealous. You want a little jealous, not crazy jealous.
- What kind of status updates should I post? That’s up to you, but I urge you to avoid posting completely useless crap. DO NOT post any of the following: memes, pics of food, pics of alcoholic beverages, what music you’re listening to, anything with a hashtag (#), any kind of angry/depressed updates, and most importantly do not post when you’ve been drinking. DO post anything that raises your value. I usually post once a day to get some major ‘likes’ (it’s retarded but it makes you look important). Got a sick new car? Post pics. On a killer vacation? Post pics. Have some ‘revelation of the day’ that happens to be a universal truth? Post it. Have a fun night feeling like a king surrounded by groupies? Post, post, post.
Whatever you do, realize that Facebook, just like Plenty Of Fish, Tinder, Twitter, OkCupid, and other websites are major buffers. Treat them as additional tools in conjunction with ‘real life’ approaching, but they are not replacements. More often than not they end up being major distractions. Online game misses the finesse of presentation, body language, on the spot decision making, social skills, and so on. For the most part, I recommend a ‘set and forget’ approach. You can send a few messages from time to time and show interest in whatever way is appropriate for that platform, but if you spend more than 15 minutes/day doing it, you’re wasting time.
Feel free to contact me if you have additional questions.