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Facebook Game Tips

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A few months ago I wrote about Facebook photo structuring for maximum pickup success. FB game is its own animal and relies heavily on real life social proof. Fortunately, much like a ‘fake it til you make it’ approach works in everyday environments, becoming pseudo-famous on FB requires a similar approach. Reader feedback generated some valid questions, so here are some additional game tips in no particular order:

  1. Pics with girls can send off a player vibe – is this bad? Definitely not. The game is a numbers game and while you can’t catch them all, you want to attract the majority and repel the minority. The pros gained from verifiable social proof (cute girls tagged in your photos) far outweigh the cons of being labeled a ‘player’ by a few prudes. Preselection trumps all – women want who other women want. It’s also important to stay congruent with your goals. If you just want to bang a bunch of hot chicks, there’s no reason to hide it. You don’t overtly say it of course, but your actions – manifest in the photos you post – will speak for themselves.
  2. How do you structure messages? Typical messages are ‘hey’, ‘what’s up’, ‘how are you’, or some combination thereof, i.e. ‘hey how are you’. In my experience this is sufficient. A witty line or some attempt at circumventing a boring message in order to initiate a conversation often does more harm than good. If a girl accepts your friend request, checks out your profile, and likes what she sees, she’ll respond. If she doesn’t, it’s not the content of your message – she’s just not interested. When women open me (sadly they’re not all supermodels), they often say the exact same things, so keep it simple. You can then ask what she’s up to, where she goes out, what she does for fun – basically anything to begin threading.
  3. Should you ever ‘like’ pics/status updates? ‘Likes’ are to be used sparingly. In general, I only ‘like’ a photo or status if a) that girl and I have some history and b) we haven’t talked in a while and I want her to think about me again. Occasionally I’ll ‘like’ an update of a girl I’m dating to let her know I’m thinking about her, but this gets into a bit of relationship management. The general rule of thumb is: if a pretty girl posts a bunch of pictures regularly for attention and gets tons of ‘likes’ as is, she doesn’t need yours. Don’t be another orbiter.
  4. What kind of comments should you make (if any)? Comments are your bread and butter. This is your chance to flex your social bicep and post backhanded compliments, negs as necessary, puns, and generally set yourself apart from the others. Don’t become a ‘regular’ on any girl’s wall, but practice your social skills randomly. Even then it’s still time consuming and I typically only comment in response to my own status updates. This sets the frame – if you come post on my wall, I’ll reply, otherwise you won’t get any attention from me.
  5. What do you do when dating multiple girls on FB? With enough effort you’re likely to begin banging casually dating several girls – all of whom are Facebook friends with you. This can start some serious drama, so it’s best to avoid posting additional photos of you and other girls 1-on-1 once it begins. By all means post group photos (let’s say a couple cute girls with their arms around you, with whom you’re platonic), but be careful about what you put out in the open once sex is involved. A girl I’ve been dating non-exclusively for a few months now has questioned me multiple times about 1 photo with me and a couple girls I know. Women get crazy jealous. You want a little jealous, not crazy jealous.
  6. What kind of status updates should I post? That’s up to you, but I urge you to avoid posting completely useless crap. DO NOT post any of the following: memes, pics of food, pics of alcoholic beverages, what music you’re listening to, anything with a hashtag (#), any kind of angry/depressed updates, and most importantly do not post when you’ve been drinking. DO post anything that raises your value. I usually post once a day to get some major ‘likes’ (it’s retarded but it makes you look important). Got a sick new car? Post pics. On a killer vacation? Post pics. Have some ‘revelation of the day’ that happens to be a universal truth? Post it. Have a fun night feeling like a king surrounded by groupies? Post, post, post.

Whatever you do, realize that Facebook, just like Plenty Of Fish, Tinder, Twitter, OkCupid, and other websites are major buffers. Treat them as additional tools in conjunction with ‘real life’ approaching, but they are not replacements. More often than not they end up being major distractions. Online game misses the finesse of presentation, body language, on the spot decision making, social skills, and so on. For the most part, I recommend a ‘set and forget’ approach. You can send a few messages from time to time and show interest in whatever way is appropriate for that platform, but if you spend more than 15 minutes/day doing it, you’re wasting time.

Feel free to contact me if you have additional questions.

What Would Alpha Do?

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As you’re going through the steps of realigning your personality with whatever ideal you aspire to, you’re likely to experience moments of confusion. Lots of them. In such situations – before the transformation is complete – you need a guiding beacon.

Without delving into the nitty gritty definition of what makes an alpha male, even a nebulous concept thereof can be judged on sight by both sexes. You may not be able to quite put your finger on why, but you just know if a guy is acting like an alpha or a fag. Beyond the rude awakening to the workings of the sexual marketplace, even a recovering beta knows how he should act. His challenge is the follow through.

So in moments of clinging weakness, ask yourself:

What would alpha do?

You’ll most likely get an answer you won’t like and it won’t always be correct, but even the ‘wrong’ path will be better than your initial course of action.

On top of that, doing so allows you to shift responsibility onto an imaginary persona. Sounds quack right? Not really. One of the hardest things to overcome after unplugging is cognitive dissonance. Past a certain extent we never get rid of it, as rationalization is a natural human coping/ego preservation mechanism, but the more you can subdue this impulse the clearer your mind will become.

From a logical standpoint, you won’t know exactly who you are during your transition, so an external guide is necessary. This guide is usually some combination of mentors, books, visual media, and firsthand observation – but it’s not always available. In those dire moments when you don’t know how to act, that nonexistent idealization of the man you want to be will have the answer. It’s better than the former ‘you’, but not quite the perfect ‘you’. It’s a ‘you in progress’. Do it enough times and you just might start becoming the very person you imagine.

Watch Fight Club if you haven’t. It’s a perfect example of this alpha/beta dichotomy with subsequent transformation and easily a top 10 movie.

Texting Tips

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Incessant texting is a disease, but in today’s climate some amount is required for maximum pussy profit. In no particular order, here are some general tips for getting the most out of the least:

  1. Always text less than her. This applies to all aspects of your relationship and texting is no exception. You can subtly display your higher value in texting less than she texts you. It doesn’t have to be a dramatic difference and if you have something to say – say it – but in general you should be able to scroll through your history and see more messages on the left.
  2. Don’t immediately respond. In most cases, there’s no reason to do so. Unless you’re meeting up and handling logistics (‘I’m lost, how do I get to your place?’), anything that’s not a clear, time sensitive emergency can wait. The longer the better, especially in heated situations. If she blows up on you about something – regardless if you’re at fault – let it simmer awhile. Girls always do this, so why should you act any different? Furthermore, waiting a little and checking how quickly she responds is a great way to gauge interest.
  3. Respond at random times. Corollary to the above, text when you feel like it. If you’re up at 3am, send your reply then. Or wait a day. Or 3. Obfuscation and unpredictability are the tools of the sexy seducer, so give her hamster something to chew on. If she questions why it took so long or why you’re sending it so late, you’ve succeeded. Ignore or make something up. Or just say ’cause I felt like it’.
  4. Keep responses short. Be laconic – less is more. Always explain less than asked. Never give full disclosure. Remain ambiguous. Proficiency here will come with time, but by keeping it short you’re A) signaling your higher relative value, B) showing her you’re a busy guy and have things to do with your life, and C) maintaining a little mystery by keeping the initiative.
  5. Don’t emote. No smiley faces. Ever. No emotes of any kind. Leave the overt display of emotions for the birds. Show her you care through actions, not buttons. On the same note, don’t wear pink.
  6. Don’t worry about clever responses. One of the best things about texting is that it gives you time to think about what to say. Most guys – especially those who aren’t interacting with attractive women regularly – get tongue tied when thrown for a loop, or even when a girl is nice to look at it. Like everything else it takes practice to get over, but until such a time the text buffer will help. That said, you don’t need to rack your brain for a witty comeback. Things that seem clever to you will often be misunderstood, so keep it simple.
  7. Don’t drunk text/dial unless it’s a guaranteed lay that night. I don’t know how many times I have to repeat this, but under no circumstance are you to initiate phone/text conversations when drunk. A couple beers in, sure. Drunk, no. There’s no game you can spit, nothing you can do that will further your cause in any way. The only exception is if you’ve either scheduled a lay for that night and are simply following through (‘hey I’m on my way’) or she drunk texts you. Then attempt to seal the deal that night, but absolutely no talk of feelings or any of that crap – you’re going to regret it in the morning.
  8. Don’t use other text-like apps/media. Recently other MMS-ish services like WhatsApp have been popping up. What they offer in extras is a hindrance in disguise. WhatsApp is distinctly different with its ‘seen at x:xx’ feature, much like Facebook messaging. This is another variable and more variables = bad. You don’t want her to know you’ve seen her message but decided to ignore it for 3 days. That’s a given. By extension, unless you have a very compelling reason, stay off Twitter as well. Facebook is sufficient for maintaining contact with people over the years.
  9. Use texting as a date scheduler. Your primary – and only consistent – use for texting is to set dates. When girls have ‘called me out’ for not texting, I tell them ‘I don’t like it. I prefer face to face.’ It’s really that simple. Contrary to popular belief, you’re not bonding or making her like you any more by constantly asking how her day is going. Leave that for the beta orbiters. Be the alpha she fucks instead.

‘Text game’ is extremely limited. Although exact figures vary, all interpersonal communication is roughly 55% physiology (body language), 38% tone of voice, and 7% words. When you text, only 7% of the message gets through. Not only that, but if your goal is to actually hang out, perpetual messaging is a waste of time that won’t bring you any closer. If you have to do it, keep it sparse and stay focused on the goal: physical interaction.

Finally, a lot of text ‘situations’ are very context dependent and require case-by-case handling. If you have any exchanges you’d like analyzed, comment below or shoot me an email.

Leave An Alpha And They’ll Come Back

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The expression ’5 minutes of alpha is worth more than 5 years of beta’ is more like a law. Not only do women fondly remember the one that got away, but given the chance they’ll drop everything to go back. I’ve questioned many wives about their current husbands and the badboys in their lives who just wouldn’t commit. In almost all cases, they lit up at the recollection of a more passionate existence. Many admitted interest in rekindling the romance if fate had its way.

On a smaller scale, this should be your M.O. for relationship management, especially if you’re a ‘player’ (casually dating multiple women). Eventually they’ll want commitment – some sooner than others – and if you don’t give it to them despite their efforts, they’ll leave. She’ll make it very clear what she’s looking for – a Facebook official relationship, kids, marriage, whatever, and once the request is made the clock is ticking, so enjoy the sex while it lasts. This is completely fair, as women yearn for the emotional bond much more than men, but there’s a right and wrong way to peace out.

You have to stick to your guns. First, you need core philosophies, otherwise you won’t know what you stand for. If your goal is casual dating until you’ve ‘made it’ in whatever life pursuits you choose, don’t waver. Let her go. Tell her it’s too early for you to be committed. It doesn’t need to be dramatic. In fact, the calm, somewhat cold response is ideal. If she wrongs you in an attempt to elicit a strong emotional response, give it to her – but through your actions.

For example, girl #44 wanted commitment quick and I wasn’t having it. She was smoking, but already having had a kid and looking to ‘settle down’ conflicted with my plans. One night she was out drinking and texted me asking to pick her up. I figured I’d bring her back, do our usual thing, and drive her to her car in the morning. But as soon as I got her she proceeded to tell me – the entire ride home – about the date she’d just been on, how she got turned down by some guy she liked at the bar, how she wanted to fuck this other guy, and on and on. When we got to my place, she wanted nothing to do with me – only a bed to sleep in.

I was pissed, but it was late, she was drunk, and it would be pointless to do anything until the morning. When I got up, I told her ‘it’s time to go’ and immediately drove her to her car. On the way she asked what was wrong. I simply replied ‘think about it, I don’t want to talk you’. When we arrived, I opened the door and told her to get out. A few days later I half explained the situation as she kept pestering me. We stopped talking after that.

Fast forward several months and she contacts me out of the blue, apparently fresh out of a brief relationship. We hit up my bar to ‘catch up’, get to drinking, and before long stay up all night like rabbits. Then we stop talking again and that’s fine by me. I got to know her personality and don’t want anything to do with it, but I will gladly bang it out.

Point is, this happens with multiple girls. They leave, have a relationship with some beta who smothers them with affection, decide that although he’s a nice guy he’s just not right for them, and often come back for seconds – but only if you leave the right way.

So what is the right way? It’s any way that doesn’t compromise your integrity. The moment she has your balls, the ship is sunk. Leave her the same way you met her: with your head held high.

Will she definitely come back? Not necessarily, but at least you kept your dignity and door is open. Furthermore, if you focus on succeeding in your own life, there’s above a 99% chance – statistically – that you’ll become a better man than any she’s been with. If you haven’t forgotten about her by then, you can call her up and start all over again, though it’s usually not worth it. If nothing else, give her the best sex of her life and ruin it for every other guy.

Escaping The Friend Zone

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A common question raised by many men is how to get out of the friend zone. While there are methods that work to varying degrees, the basic premise is faulty. If you got the LJBF (Let’s Just Be Friends) rejection, there’s a 99.99% chance you’re better off pursuing other prospects. Don’t take it personal and realize there’s essentially an infinite supply of women available to you.

Let me repeat – trying to get out of the friend zone is almost always a colossal waste of time. Landing there to begin with signals a lack of sexual availability on her part. Although sometimes it really has nothing to do with you (maybe she’s in love with her man, her cat just died, she got an STD scare, whatever), sometimes it is you. In such a case, there was some deficiency on your part. Maybe you’re not tall enough, cute enough, fit enough, rich enough, dominating enough, famous enough, whatever.

Either way, a rejection of the friend sort is her way of saying – with 100% certainty – that she will not sleep with you. Are your current prospects that few and far between that you want to continue wasting your time on a girl who won’t reciprocate? If that’s the case, work on getting some.

And move on. It’s fairly easy if you abide by these 3 philosophies.

What is it you say? She’s extra special? She’s ‘the one’? You just have to have her? Well, if your time is cheaper than free, fine. None of these are guaranteed to work, but they’ll help you get over your unhealthy obsession and just might change her mind. This is not about some game of push-pull, but rather an overt display of intolerance for anything short of sexual reciprocation. You’re going to show her that you don’t care to be friends.

  1. Hang out with (and preferably bang) other girls. You still have wants (needs?) and she’s not satisfying them, so find a girl who will. Several if you prefer. Don’t brag about it, but don’t deny it either – a covert admission goes a long way. If she asks what the deal is with so and so, reply ‘we’re just friends’ with a little ‘fuck you’ grin. There’s a good chance she’ll become interested, pry you for details (don’t give any), and eventually find out what she wants through outside parties. Telling her that you hung out with another girl will have the opposite effect.
  2. If you’re out together, pay other women more attention and flirt your ass off. Why are you out together to begin with? If you’re platonic drinking buddies or she wants you around for attention, don’t give it. Flirt with other cute girls, the more the merrier. You’re not trying to make her jealous, you just don’t care. That should be your mindset. Unless your D is filling her V, she’s last pick.
  3. Ignore her. One of the most ego crushing experiences is discovering that weeks/months of conversation and ‘working on her’ has been for nothing. When you get rejected, minimize contact. Let her call a few times before responding with a one word text. The more you used to talk about nothing in the past, the greater the difference should now be.
  4. Treat her like an annoying sister. If you happen to find yourself in her company, treat her like a bratty sister. She already rejected you, so you have nothing to lose. Caveat: do not act butthurt. There’s a difference between ‘playful mean’ and ‘you’re a dick mean’. Be the former. If you’re wasting any more time on her, might as well have fun with it. Whatever you choose to do, stay congruent.
  5. Don’t take the bait. Unless you were completely repulsive and didn’t take the bajillion hints to leave her alone, there may still be some latent interest. This spark can grow into a bonfire with some chick crack fuel. As it’s getting bigger, she’s likely to throw out bait, a la ‘why don’t you talk to me anymore, why are you acting different, what’s wrong with you, I thought we were friends’, and so on. Don’t bite. If anything, tell her ‘we’re friends, this is how I treat my friends’ and ignore her some more. Accept nothing less than implicit plans for consummation.
  6. Forget about her. Naturally I saved the best for last. The above ‘tactics’ are incremental steps to forgetting about her. She rejected you. It’s not up to you to ‘turn it around’. It’s not within your control. She’s her own person. If she becomes interested, she’ll let you know with enough certainty, but if you sit around waiting for it it’ll never happen. So go find something better to do.

Say it with me one more time: if I get friend zoned, I will shrug it off, forget about her, and spend my time porking the willing.