In the midst of figuring out different ways to get yours, the basics are often forgotten or at least conveniently ignored. It’s time to refresh how each sex views each other.
Woman = sex object.
Man = success object.
Obvious right? But how often we stray from this basic premise, complicating the simple elegance of what is.
The Sex Object
A woman’s primary, and only real form of power in this world is her beauty (and by extension, youth). So long as we remain human, this will never change. No amount of college degrees, high status positions, undeserved salaries, feminist outbursts, ‘equality’ laws, shaming tactics, cougars, or any other form of brainwashing can overcome what we see with our eyes.
Naturally men seek secondary traits for commitment such as loyalty, modesty, femininity (‘girliness’), some degree of intelligence, lack of pre-existing children, and so on, but without an acceptable level of beauty – what that man thinks he’s capable of attaining – none of this comes into consideration.
If you’re fat and ugly, men don’t want you. Period. You may still get some and delude yourself into believing otherwise, but you’ll never, ever, have the kind of man you desire because you’re not the kind of woman he desires. You can’t force someone to be attracted to you, no matter how nice, loyal, funny, whatever you happen to be. It’s a shame that western civilization is ballooning at such an exponential rate; these women have no chance at happiness, which they won’t realize until it’s too late. Or spend their entire lives keeping nasty thoughts locked up.
Ladies – even if you get the short stick (unattractive face), you’re not completely SOL. Not most of you anyway. Forget the promise of independence and ‘getting whatever you want’ through corporate ascension. We don’t care. Your accomplishments are only impressive if you’re hot. Keep climbing and you’ll find nothing but misery and bitterness at the apex when you realize that men are indifferent to your socioeconomic success.
Maintain a slim figure, use makeup wisely, save a few bucks to have some work done, develop an amicable personality, and secure what you reasonably believe to be the best you can get before you’re too old to compete with the next wave of nubile youngsters. It’s asking a lot, I know, but it’ll do more for you than years of ‘doing what you have to’ to move up.
The Success Object
A man’s form of power is more dispersed. The 5 main traits of alpha – wealth, status, looks, fame, game – are under greater personal control. However, it’s equalized with a woman’s narrower scope of power due to the biological value of egg (expensive) vs. sperm (cheap). Men are expendable. We fight from the day we’re born. Most of us start with nothing and have to beat out the rest to ascend. The poon waiting at the top is the prize for years – nay decades – of self sacrifice.
While it’s true that modern women at various stages of their lives are ‘attracted’ to different things as conditions necessitate, it’s nothing more than preferential weighing of the 5 traits. A 6 pack and big arms works on all women, but younger girls in their prime are more likely to act upon these urges than single moms on the other side of 30, who all of a sudden become more practical.
Still, a spreading of the legs is directly proportional to your success in these 5 areas. A good looking, ripped, rich, high status man who’s not socially awkward will be passed around town in a hurry.
If you’re unsuccessful, hot women don’t want you – they can do better. And let’s not use lower rung examples as anything other than what they are: exceptions, particularly when you look at the big picture. Drug dealers in the hood with no real prospects can get some through game, local status, and throwing a bit of money around (along with supplying the product), but they’ll never swim in the top gene pool with any regularity.
Men – I talk over and over and over until I want to puke about self improvement, not only for your own sake but as a ‘passive’ means of attracting women. It’s a win-win. Learn game – the attitudinal shift is a mandatory mindset for the challenges of life – but see it for what it is: a single piece of the puzzle. Hit the gym, get your body right. You can’t do much about your face, but groom well. Get some clothes that fit you and stay away from Walmart. Learn how to save money. Building true wealth is a lifelong process, so get started now. Whatever craft you choose, excel in it. Become the top dog. The local status may one day transform into broader fame. Do this relentlessly, consistently, day in and day out for years on end and you will reap the benefits.
In any competitive market, it’s natural to seek the path of least resistance, especially with greater competition. Beyond the obvious (makeup and augmentation for women, game for men, and lying for both), shortcuts abound daily. They’re primarily passive aggressive attempts at swinging control of the sexual market into the favor of the aggressor. Shaming is #1. ‘Men are shallow’. ‘Women only care about my wallet’. I say attempts because they’re only temporarily able to circumvent the harsh truth: there are no lasting shortcuts. Reaching the top – and staying there – is a constant battle for both sexes.
Women have to beat out other women, lamenting that the men they really want – the super alphas – will never settle for just one (not for long anyway) because they don’t have to. Given the realistic choice of one hot woman or several, men will take the latter.
Men have to beat out other men to get to the top, lamenting that women get their cake and eat it too while guys in their formative years go crazy with blue balls and often self destruct before screwing their heads on right and realizing their time will come, if only they focus on longer lasting success.
No one has it easy, not forever.
And so we come to ‘love’, the ultimate weapon in the battle for sexual supremacy. Does love conquer all? Hardly.
How many women are ‘in love’ with their man only to leave him once he loses his job and a convenient upgrade appears?
How many men are ‘in love’ with their woman until she ages and porks out only to leave (or cheat) when a younger, hotter, tighter prospect dangles some T&A?
Discussion of love is a series of posts in its own, but don’t be fooled by emotions and declarations of feelings. While they may be genuine, the sex/success law never falters. Follow it and you’ll find happiness. Ignore it and you’ll be miserable. Simple enough?