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Objectification, Shortcuts, And Love

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In the midst of figuring out different ways to get yours, the basics are often forgotten or at least conveniently ignored. It’s time to refresh how each sex views each other.

Woman = sex object.

Man = success object.

Obvious right? But how often we stray from this basic premise, complicating the simple elegance of what is.

The Sex Object

A woman’s primary, and only real form of power in this world is her beauty (and by extension, youth). So long as we remain human, this will never change. No amount of college degrees, high status positions, undeserved salaries, feminist outbursts, ‘equality’ laws, shaming tactics, cougars, or any other form of brainwashing can overcome what we see with our eyes.

Naturally men seek secondary traits for commitment such as loyalty, modesty, femininity (‘girliness’), some degree of intelligence, lack of pre-existing children, and so on, but without an acceptable level of beauty – what that man thinks he’s capable of attaining – none of this comes into consideration.

If you’re fat and ugly, men don’t want you. Period. You may still get some and delude yourself into believing otherwise, but you’ll never, ever, have the kind of man you desire because you’re not the kind of woman he desires. You can’t force someone to be attracted to you, no matter how nice, loyal, funny, whatever you happen to be. It’s a shame that western civilization is ballooning at such an exponential rate; these women have no chance at happiness, which they won’t realize until it’s too late. Or spend their entire lives keeping nasty thoughts locked up.

Ladies – even if you get the short stick (unattractive face), you’re not completely SOL. Not most of you anyway. Forget the promise of independence and ‘getting whatever you want’ through corporate ascension. We don’t care. Your accomplishments are only impressive if you’re hot. Keep climbing and you’ll find nothing but misery and bitterness at the apex when you realize that men are indifferent to your socioeconomic success.

Maintain a slim figure, use makeup wisely, save a few bucks to have some work done, develop an amicable personality, and secure what you reasonably believe to be the best you can get before you’re too old to compete with the next wave of nubile youngsters. It’s asking a lot, I know, but it’ll do more for you than years of ‘doing what you have to’ to move up.

The Success Object

A man’s form of power is more dispersed. The 5 main traits of alpha – wealth, status, looks, fame, game – are under greater personal control. However, it’s equalized with a woman’s narrower scope of power due to the biological value of egg (expensive) vs. sperm (cheap). Men are expendable. We fight from the day we’re born. Most of us start with nothing and have to beat out the rest to ascend. The poon waiting at the top is the prize for years – nay decades – of self sacrifice.

While it’s true that modern women at various stages of their lives are ‘attracted’ to different things as conditions necessitate, it’s nothing more than preferential weighing of the 5 traits. A 6 pack and big arms works on all women, but younger girls in their prime are more likely to act upon these urges than single moms on the other side of 30, who all of a sudden become more practical.

Still, a spreading of the legs is directly proportional to your success in these 5 areas. A good looking, ripped, rich, high status man who’s not socially awkward will be passed around town in a hurry.

If you’re unsuccessful, hot women don’t want you – they can do better. And let’s not use lower rung examples as anything other than what they are: exceptions, particularly when you look at the big picture. Drug dealers in the hood with no real prospects can get some through game, local status, and throwing a bit of money around (along with supplying the product), but they’ll never swim in the top gene pool with any regularity.

Men – I talk over and over and over until I want to puke about self improvement, not only for your own sake but as a ‘passive’ means of attracting women. It’s a win-win. Learn game – the attitudinal shift is a mandatory mindset for the challenges of life – but see it for what it is: a single piece of the puzzle. Hit the gym, get your body right. You can’t do much about your face, but groom well. Get some clothes that fit you and stay away from Walmart. Learn how to save money. Building true wealth is a lifelong process, so get started now. Whatever craft you choose, excel in it. Become the top dog. The local status may one day transform into broader fame. Do this relentlessly, consistently, day in and day out for years on end and you will reap the benefits.

Shortcuts

In any competitive market, it’s natural to seek the path of least resistance, especially with greater competition. Beyond the obvious (makeup and augmentation for women, game for men, and lying for both), shortcuts abound daily. They’re primarily passive aggressive attempts at swinging control of the sexual market into the favor of the aggressor. Shaming is #1. ‘Men are shallow’. ‘Women only care about my wallet’. I say attempts because they’re only temporarily able to circumvent the harsh truth: there are no lasting shortcuts. Reaching the top – and staying there – is a constant battle for both sexes.

Women have to beat out other women, lamenting that the men they really want – the super alphas – will never settle for just one (not for long anyway) because they don’t have to. Given the realistic choice of one hot woman or several, men will take the latter.

Men have to beat out other men to get to the top, lamenting that women get their cake and eat it too while guys in their formative years go crazy with blue balls and often self destruct before screwing their heads on right and realizing their time will come, if only they focus on longer lasting success.

No one has it easy, not forever.

Love

And so we come to ‘love’, the ultimate weapon in the battle for sexual supremacy. Does love conquer all? Hardly.

How many women are ‘in love’ with their man only to leave him once he loses his job and a convenient upgrade appears?

How many men are ‘in love’ with their woman until she ages and porks out only to leave (or cheat) when a younger, hotter, tighter prospect dangles some T&A?

Discussion of love is a series of posts in its own, but don’t be fooled by emotions and declarations of feelings. While they may be genuine, the sex/success law never falters. Follow it and you’ll find happiness. Ignore it and you’ll be miserable. Simple enough?

Attraction Is A Choice – It Can Be Created

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Several years ago I read David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating. Although a few of the concepts presented are flawed or incomplete, at the time I was starting from scratch so I soaked it up, and to be fair he gives some solid tips for beginners. His famous line is ‘attraction is not a choice’. On the surface the rationale is sound. A lot of times a girl can’t logically tell you why she’s attracted to a guy beyond listing symptoms – he’s hot, sweet, he ‘gets me’, the way he carries himself, blah blah.

Where this gets mixed up is the assumption that you either have it or you don’t. You’re either attractive or you’re not. If that were true, there would be no point in chasing wealth, fame, status, looks, or learning game.

Attraction can be created. Therefore, it is a choice. A choice you make to become more attractive.

Exhibit A – manufactured fame:

The girls aren’t necessarily swarming him because their panties are soaked, but I would bet my paycheck that if he kept up the act he’d be getting laid that night. Now, I’m not endorsing faking your way as a long term strategy because, well, it’s not sustainable (though faking it til you make it – with emphasis on making it – is sound). But it goes to show that as a man, you are in control of your sexual market value.

Examine the 5 main traits of alpha – looks, wealth, status, fame, and game – and how each one is a choice you make:

Looks – her panties get wet once she sees your arms, feels your strength, and touches your 6 pack. Manufactured by you.

Wealth – sure you can call them gold diggers, but ultimately penetration is all that counts. She may ‘love’ you for your money, but does it really make a difference? Manufactured by you.

Status/Fame – (status is a subset of fame) as you can see in the video, no further explanation is required. Manufactured by you, either as the above prank or bona fide.

Game – the attitude girls love. This is what they mean by ‘he gets me, he’s not a pushover, I like his style, he’s sweet, he’s exciting, etc’. Guess what – manufactured by you.

Although a lot of guys intuitively know this, there are still way too many who think ‘she should just like me for me’ and as a result take the easy path of inaction, later wondering why they can’t get any.

The entire premise of this site is to become a more attractive (and therefore higher value) man. Yes, it will bring you happiness.

Leagues Exist

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She’s out of your league.

One of the feel-good fallacies of the PUA community, game, and most people in general is the concept that leagues don’t exist, that if you ‘really try’ you can get any woman and it won’t be that difficult. Or that any woman can get a man of her choosing. In reality, it is simply not so.

As soon as someone poses the question ‘is she out of my league’, there’s an immediate wave of reassuring commentary to the effect of her not realizing how good you are, there not being such a thing as leagues, trying a different approach, and so on. It applies to both genders and is based on the false premise that all people are equal. They’re not – not according to the observable sexual marketplace. For all intents and purposes some people are better than others but the ego – the most powerful force in the universe – would have you believe otherwise. And it is exactly your stance on this matter that results in either ’just be yourself’ stagnation or an insatiable drive for self improvement. Which group are you in?

Alpha traits are discussed and debated everywhere, but the general consensus is that for men, improving in all areas of looks, status, fame, wealth, and psychosocial dominance (game) will bump you up to the appropriate league. For women it’s primarily physical attractiveness (youth and beauty), with secondary traits (personality) falling behind. It is what it is.

It’s a natural tendency for people to congregate within specific socioeconomic circles. Trailer trash hangs with trailer trash, country club drinks with country club, and so on. It’s been explored under different names, such as Social Matching Theory, but the underlying message is the same: leagues exist. And while there are exceptions to everything, you won’t find HB 8+ hotties flocking to an out of shape, unattractive, poor 30 year old who still lives at home. It just doesn’t happen.

Game is an equalizer in that you get the most bang for your buck by adopting certain behaviors and methodologies of bona fide alphas (and the quick results are its greatest allure), but it will only take you so far. You’ll eventually reach an equilibrium point where no matter how well you present yourself, no matter how convincing of a perception you create, you’ll still have to put in what seems to be an unnecessary amount of effort into maintaining and/or acquiring relationships with attractive women. In other words, you’ve reached the apex of your league and the only way to bump up to the next level is to improve in other aspects by which your worth in the sexual marketplace is determined.

It’s entirely possible to get quite far with just a couple traits. For example: looks + game. More specifically, average height (nature) + above average face (nature) + great body (nurture) + decent game (nurture) = great one night stand material. But you still have to get out there and unless you’re making good money or don’t care for retirement, the financial and temporal investment may not be worth the notch count. It’s up to you. However, a high score in any single field to the detriment of all others yields minimal results and generally doesn’t exist, i.e. it’s nearly impossible to be famous without also having either looks, wealth, or game.

The point is this: if you want to be fought over by top shelf ass (9′s+), you have to be top shelf yourself, which means you have to get in her league. Conversely, if you are in the top percentile, you’ll have no shortage of women chomping at the bit for your attention. As you ascend, you’ll notice this trend beginning with girls well below your league who, although physically repelling, come on to you in very direct ways. A few hotties near your range will do this as well. This is the ‘wtf moment’ experienced by up-and-comers when they start getting hit on by fatties. It’s a good thing – you’re becoming more attractive to all women, not just those you desire.

Does everyone want this (or want it enough) to take action? Of course not. Statistically, most guys are perfectly content with a semi attractive girl who’s generally nice, provides a regular sexual outlet, can lend an occasional shoulder, and causes minimal drama. For them, a little game knowledge is all that’s necessary if they are mostly ‘there’. But if your ego (and your manhood) yearns to be assuaged by countless babes or to fall in love with a young, hot, tight, baggage-free future wife and have it truly reciprocated, you have to get in her league.

Public Display Continuum

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Regardless of how many girls you’ve slept with, there’s a certain degree of pride (or shame) that goes hand in hand with her physical attractiveness. This feeling inspires you to take action to either publicize your conquest or lock it in the basement. The continuum, based on a 10 point scale of universal beauty, goes something like this:

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1 – No resemblance to a female. Actively avoided by all of society in all possible situations. Unless you have a severe physical/mental deficiency, you should stay as far away as possible. Dry spells are no excuse to stoop this low.

5 – The average. Unfortunately the average, at least in the States, while slightly varying by demographic (South Beach/LA/NYC vs. flyover country), is generally fat or butterfaced. Here you will find the majority of your pickings. Having any romantic contact with a girl below 5 will greatly diminish your self-confidence and if word gets out that you slept with so and so, it will effectively scar you for life within that social group. If you’ve ever been with a hot girl and discovered that she slept with some guy who’s well below her standards (and yourself), you’ll feel at least some disgust and your estimation of her character will diminish accordingly. You’ll also feel less special.

This is multiplied 10x for women because they know that beauty is their only real agent of power in this world. So to see a man of significantly higher value cavorting with a dreg will trigger disqualification based on some character flaw – what’s wrong with him? How could he sleep with her, he must be ___ (dirty, small penis, unconfident, and so on). It is imperative that you keep any contact here to a minimum and cover your tracks if for some reason you feel compelled to venture down this path.

10 – The crème de la crème. Any girl 8 and above you will instinctively want to display whenever possible. Not only will it give you great joy to parade around with your eye candy, but it’s pre-selection in mixed company. Other women will be open to your flirtations by default. Men will defer to you by default. The Heavens will part.

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Between 1-5 lies a danger to be avoided at all costs. These are ‘women’ who should only get your polite, business related attention and quickly dismissed. The god of biomechanics is cruel. There is rarely any benefit to associating with girls in this range. Should you have dumpster dived this deep, it would behoove you to cover your tracks in a manner befitting a Sherlock tale. Although a dry spell may lower your sexual acceptability threshold somewhat, see that it doesn’t lower it too much. Use it as motivation to fix whatever problem you have and bag a hottie. Just like there are few things in the world comparable to the feeling of a best-to-date conquest, there are few things which you will regret more than sticking your manhood into a human vegetable, no matter how warm the hole. Just don’t do it.

Between 6-10 is where it gets interesting. At 6 you can safely roll in the hay, albeit occasionally, without the repercussions of a blow to your ego. However, you still need to keep it under wraps. Girls talk and word will spread enough on its own. You don’t need further publicize this indiscretion. Do her in private so if worse comes to worst, you can deny.

At 7 you’ll find a nice selection of long term worthy plain janes. She’s cute, no major physical flaws, but not a head turner. You wouldn’t want to parade her too much, but you don’t feel embarrassed in public. At 8 onward you have no problems being seen with her as it raises your own value in turn.

It is vitally important that you set your standards with some flexibility. Keyword: some. The last thing you want is a reputation of being a dumpster diver. Keep in mind that the greater the discrepancy in value between you and her, the more (typically) she will run her mouth. If she’s a 4 and you’re a 7, all of her friends and family will know before sunrise. If she’s an 8 and you’re a 7, maybe a couple friends will find out. Furthermore, your reputation tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sleep with enough tankgurls and you’ll soon be questioning your own worth in the mirror. Choose quality with a healthy dose of quantity.