In the midst of picking up girls and bouncing from one relationship to another, a simple fact is forgotten: that from a biological perspective it’s a total waste. The purpose of life – as best as we’ve come to agree upon anyway – is life itself. Or, propagation of the species. Contraceptives naturally circumvent this, but it’s still a motivating factor.
Just because we found a way to make babies without making babies (and pulling out is still your best bet) doesn’t mean the hindbrain drive has been altered. So whether you’re are non-committal player or locked down to a single woman, at some point you have to ask yourself – what is the long term goal?
Granted this is entirely based on your current life stage – an 18 year old doesn’t grasp the concept of mortality like a 50 year old – but it’s still worth considering. While I don’t recommend guys settle down until 30+ (or whatever your emotional, financial, and spiritual maturation date happens to be), you can think about this at any age.
We all share the same fate. The hobo and the billionaire alike are reduced to dust without prejudice. So, what legacy will you leave?
The truth of the matter is that stupid people are breeding while the more intelligent, upper class couples are ‘too busy’ to reproduce. As a result, a massive redistribution of wealth in our nigh socialistic society grows in scope with each passing year. The wealthy, low impulse earners are forced to support the poor, high impulse spenders.
Is this going to change anytime soon? Highly unlikely. I’m not big on politics – I’d rather witness the self destruction poolside – but you need to keep this in perspective. While you’re out there keeping your genes to yourself, the less responsible are starting up neighborhoods.
For many men, learning how to get better with women isn’t about banging as many hot chicks as possible – at least not forever. By design or by coincidence, even the biggest haters of monogamy are happily willing to give up their sexual directive in favor of a loving relationship with a woman who’s hot first, amicable second.
Finding one who pushes the right buttons and is capable of holding your attention is a tall order (time to step up your game ladies), particularly if you’ve tasted the ease of nubile panty dropping, but somewhere along the way a suitable counterpart may present herself.
If you choose to commit to monogamy, ask yourself why. What is your endgame? A steady supply of unrestricted sex? Children? Emotional bonding? All of the above?
Know this – in today’s world it’s nearly impossible to have your cake and eat it too. Having multiple wives and mistresses in exchange for food, shelter, and protection may have been de facto a couple millennia ago, but today it’ll get you figuratively crucified at best, killed at worst.
Some men, particularly those with higher net worth and some fame to boot opt for a main girl on paper and mistresses on the side, but such relationships – while tolerable for a time to some women – rarely end well.
And so you must choose: either play the field, commit to no one, and enjoy irregular but novel sex without emotion, or stick to one, start building your relationship from the ground up, and be prepared for offspring.
Unless you’re into baby mama drama.